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10 years down

I don’t remember exactly when I fell down the rabbit hole when it comes to David, but I do remember that when I did, it was a short and quick fall.

David and I met in March, were engaged by August, and were married the following September. We had no need to rush and we were still pretty young. Hell, he was my first real relationship at that point. However, every decision we made felt like the right one. It never felt rushed, even though looking back on it now, I would probably tell my 25 year old self (24 when we met) to slow it down and savor it. Savor the courtship and then really savor our time being married and alone. We have 2 wonderful kiddos, but if anything slingshots marriage into turbo speed, it’s kids.

And now here we are. 11.5 years in, 10 years married. And I’m sitting here wondering where it all went. How did all that time pass? And have we been good to it?

Our marriage is a pretty real one. We love and fight with vigor. The first few years were harder than I think either of us wanted. We were trying so hard to highlight the things that were different between us instead of celebrating them. And making the move from single to being held accountable to another person was difficult for me. We have had our fair shares of marriage therapists and even have one now that we see to make sure we are communicating fairly and kindly (Shout out to Dr. T!). To really round it all out, David and I work together. We have a photography business called ArrowMaker Media and we are lifestyle photographers. So, marriage+family+jobs. We are quite enmeshed.

And we freaking love it. And we wanted to celebrate it! There is a restaurant here in Sacramento called South. We visited it the first time together after a therapy session actually. IT IS SO GOOD. And lemme tell you, they are wonderful to work with. We hosted 50 of our closest family and friends for a night of good food and good drinks and it was perfect.

Since we were the guests of honor, we asked Chantel of Eleakis and Elder to photograph the evening. It is an amazing feeling to have wildly talented people of industry surround your own event. Chantel was warm and captured the evening exactly as we felt it.

One of my favorite parts were the calls and texts asking me what I was wearing. I told everyone it was casual and they would usually answer, “Yeah, but like Joan casual?” meaning that even in casual wear, I look a little fancier than the average bear.

I chose a simple, black dress and fantastic Stuart Weitzman pearl sandals. The earrings were fantastically strange, an impulse buy from H&M. The dress was shorter than I normally wear since my bootie can make short dresses basically inappropriate in the back, but this dress is a high low hem so it solved that problem easily. And I was comfortable all night. Even in the heels. I’m also sure all the rosé helped.

David, I love you. I’m ready for another 10. Maybe even 20.


Photography by Eleakis & Elder / Host Restaurant South

Black Swing Dress (Now on Sale!!): Boohoo / Pearl Embellished Heeled Sandals: Stuart Weitzman / Eye Heart Earrings: H&M (out of stock!) Similar shape here

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Sacramento’s Dîner en Blanc (2016)

This post originally went up the week after Sacramento’s first Dîner en Blanc. We are lucky enough to be hosting a second dinner and I cannot wait! As of today, the event is sold out. I can’t believe how fast that went! I’m looking forward to seeing everyone at this years dinner and I know it will be even more amazing our sophomore year…..

Oh my god! It’s been almost a week since the very first Dîner en Blanc Sacramento and I’m still smiling about it. Let me take you back to the very beginning…..

About a month and a half ago, I get a lovely email from my friend, Tre Borden, asking me if I want to be a part of the inaugural Dîner en Blanc for Sacramento. If you have never heard of this dinner, it is an international company based in Montreal. They are responsible for creating a secret, pop up dinner party in over 70 cities that span across the globe. This year, they approached the lovely and talented Maritza Davis, the co-founder of Unseen Heroes (a wildly successful events company here in Sacramento) to hold the dinner in our fair city. Thus began a team of some of the most talented and incredible people I have had the pleasure of meeting.

The concept is pretty simple. Gather, in our case, 1,000 people. Make them dress in white and tell them to bring their table, chairs, linens, tablescapes, utensils, glassware, and meet at a secret location in the city. Once at the destination, set up everything, and eat, drink, and dance the night away. When the music stops and the wine is drunk, gather all your wares and bring it all home, leaving the location behind like you had never even been there.

For weeks we worked going over information about dress codes, registration information, e-store FAQs all without knowing where the event was going to be taking place. I was lucky enough to be a leader of a group of 20 people. DEB Sacramento paired with our Regional Transit and the Sacramento PD to gather people at different meeting points to bring them to the destination of the dinner.

Just a few weeks ago, our city opened our new and breathtaking basketball arena and concert venue, so it was a welcomed surprise to see us arriving at the Golden 1 center.

I was so impressed by the outfits, the decorations, the DJ!!! But most of all I was impressed by our community. I have lived in Sacramento for most of my life, but I have never seen an event like this. The energy of the crowd was overwhelmingly excited and happy.  People were just there to eat and have a good time. I can’t WAIT to do it all over again next year.


After WEEKS of searching, I settled on Rue 107 bodysuit and mesh skirt, a ton of pearls, ASOS silver shoes, and a vintage Chanel camellia pin.





























Our FANTASTIC hosts of the event! Tre Borden, Maritza Davis, Libby Siino, Michelle Odell, Christine Ault, and Bobbin Mulvaney



Photos by Arrowmaker Media, Mia Bellante, Phoebe Verkouw, and Dîner en Blanc-Sacramento

Bodysuit and Mesh Skirt: Rue 107 / Silver Square Heeled Shoes: ASOS / Pearl Necklaces: LongMedium, & Short